“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
I know I’ve talked a lot recently on comparison, but I feel like it has permeated our culture, seeped in through the cracks, and infiltrated our brains without our consent. But how can we free ourselves from the shackles of jealousy and comparison?
To me, confidence and identity come from realizing who you are and whose you are. That moment came for me between my freshman and sophomore year of high school when I believe the Lord bestowed upon me the spiritual gift of leadership. For those of you who didn’t know me when I was younger, I used to be introverted and pretty shy. Now, there’s nothing wrong with that if you don’t let it hold you back, but when God said to me, “You’re mine,” and I really listened, I broke out of my shell and began growing in ways I had never experienced before.
If you’re afraid to tell that friend you earned an A on your exam or got that internship/job you really wanted, stop. Don’t play down your accomplishments because you’re worried others are going to compare themselves to you. That’s not humility. Humility comes from having the confidence to know your worth but to also acknowledge where you need help. Think of it this way: I bet for every person who is jealous of who you are and what you’re doing, there are so many more people who look up to you and aspire to walk in your footsteps. No matter where you are in life, shine your light bright and give the glory to God. He wants to use you to do BIG things. But you have to let Him. You’re liberated from the darkness. Use that light to help guide others into the freedom that comes with knowing that God sees you as one of His children.